Quiz!!!
Do you pay someone to install a termite bait-system in your yard because you are:
A) a grownup?
OR
B) a sucker?
There are all of these things nobody tells you how to do. You don't get a "how to be a housewife/yuppie book, and the internet offers TOO MUCH information. So you just bumble along... hoping you aren't making terrible mistakes. At once nervous you're turning into a yuppie, and at the same time afraid you aren't being a good enough yuppie.
I'm just being honest here.
Do I really need to install joist supports when I put in my ceiling fan? Do I really have to get the oil changed in the car *that* often>? What is the difference between a diaper bag and the Believer bag I got for free at BEA? How much debt is too much debt? Is there really *good* debt?
Lately, I'm very aware of becoming a grownup/sucker. A friend hurt my feeling recently when he told me that babies are "so fu*king trendy" and meanwhile, Jimmy has this to say, regarding marriage/kids/aging, and I fear he's not entirely wrong... because I am sorely prone to self-doubt.
Now, please understand. I love my husband, baby and house. I would not for a million gazillion dollars trade in my life to go back to grad school, or to work a crappy job and drink nightly, or to once again "date" (horrors!) I don't miss the drama or the "passion" of single life and truly, my bullshit happiness is the happiness I want.
But termite bait? Cars expensive enough they need to be financed? Life insurance?
These things scare me. Not just becasue they bewilder me, but becasue they mean I'm changing.
Being scared isn't really a bad thing, but it's scary. You savvy?
5 Comments:
The key is whether or not the trendy thing you're doing is done because it's trendy, or because it makes you happy or feels real.
Trends aren't bad in and of themselves. They just exist. Babies have always been trendy, in the sense that there has always been a trend to have them. And thank god for that, eh?
But if there's a point to be gleaned from such a vapid comment (and any immediate reaction to it), it's that we shouldn't concern ourselves with wanting to be like everyone else or not be like everyone else. Rather, we should just want to be.
Be happy, be content, be thoughtful. Feel real. That's it.
The idea that having babies is "trendy" is possibly the stupidest thing I've ever heard. Tell your friend that what's really trendy is being a cynical asshat, and to shut the crap up and do something useful for a change, from me.
yeah, anthony!
maybe having babies after 45 might have some smack of trendiness to it, but between 20 and 40-something, I think it's considered pretty much NORMAL.
Anthony,
I don't know you, but I love you.
Love,
Me
Babies are trendy. Babies are trendy? Gads. Some "celebs" decide to breed and now all of a sudden my life is "trendy". Wow. At least I got in 10 years ago, right? I'm a trendSETTER!
But my question is, what do I do with the kids when they become passe? I'm sure I won't get a very good price for them on eBay by that time. Hrmmm...
Polli, trendSETTER!
Depends on where your live. I know in a small town, young girls sometimes have children just to get attention for being pregnant, Sadly some of their mothers encourage this behavior.
After the child reaches a certain age they simply have another baby while pawning the other child off on grandparents the majority of the time.
It's really sad. :( And yes, it's real.
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